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-They found that the more resilient people fully acknowledged and felt the horror of what happened. They experienced the same levels of sadness, stress and grief as the less resilient people, but they were able to hold room for emotions like love and gratitude too.-Tragic optimism says that you can still enjoy a stroll through the woods on the same day something terrible happens in the world. It..

-In it, Frankl observes that life involves three inevitable varieties of tragedy: the first is pain and suffering, because we are made of flesh and bone; the second is guilt, because we have some freedom to make choices and thus we feel responsible when things don't work out as we had hoped; and the third is our ability to look ahead, because we must face the fact that everything we cherish, inc..

-He swiftly moved away from attempting to portray what he saw in front of him and toward painting what he saw within him, what he called relying on his "inner eye." This, he said, allowed him to convey "what is most important in life."-"In a way, my vision impairment gave me new direction. I wouldn't say it's a blessing. But it gave me a new venue. I think that my visual impairment led me back t..

-Remember that a bad prediction requires more energy to get back in sync with reality. The more out of sync our expectations are, the more problematic, since our brains and bodies are built to conserve energy.-The psychological equation that says "happiness equals reality minus expectations" essentially represents the accuracy of our biological -that is, our brains'- predictions.

-Your prefrontal cortex is constantly generating predictions for what might unfold. These predictions are sent to the brain stem, which then prepares your mind-body for whatever is anticipated. -The brain adopts this forward-looking stance for good reason: it is far more efficient than approaching every moment with no notion or bias for what might happen next.-We subjectively prefer when our exp..

-Whereas homeostasis is agnostic to expectations, allostasis states that if you expect something to happen you will suffer less distress during the ensuing period of disorder.-Your prefrontal cortex is constantly generating predictions for what might unfold. These predictions are sent to the brain stem, which then prepares your mind-body system for whatever is anticipated.-The brain adopts this ..

2024년을 시작하면서 숙원사업처럼 시작한 영어일기 쓰기, 네 달째다...!이번달은 진짜 많이 안 빼먹고 열심히 쓴 것 같다. (분량은 별개의 문제임..ㅎ)회사 교육비로 (내돈은 아니지만 그래도 돈내는거니까ㅋㅋ열심히 들음) 수강하고 있는 하우위강의는 매일 자투리 시간에 듣고 있고, 원서도 매일 읽으려고 노력은 하는데ㅠ 쉽지 않다. 그래도 하는게 어디야~~~~ 이 정도 자기 합리화는 괜찮다고 본다..퇴근하면 힘이 별로 없지만 지친 몸 이끌고 이것저것 사부작 대느라 이번 달도 수고했어, 나 자신 :) 토닥토닥 아마 올해는 영어 일기를 처음 써 본 해니까.. 습관으로 만들기 위해서라도 이렇게 계속 월마다 기록을 남길 것 같은데, 아마 내년부터는 분기에 한 번이나 반년에 한 번 정도만 올리지 않을까 싶다..! ..

-Nonetheless, the Delta variant of COVID was met by omnipresent despair. Everyone was expecting one thing- the gradual unwinding of the pandemic- but what we got was something else entirely.-Swaths of psychological research show that our happiness is any given moment is a function of our reality minus our expectations.-This is in stark contrast to so many other places in the Western world, where..

지칠 때가 있다. 내가 매일 하고 있는 매일의 작은 도전들이 어느 날은 갑자기 무의미하게 느껴지고 보잘것없이 느껴질 때가 있다. 이걸 한다고 내가 얼마나 달라지는 거지? 누가 알아주는 것도 아닌데 내가 왜 계속 귀찮게 이렇게 지속하고 있는 걸까... 무슨 의미가 있는 거지..? 이런 부정적인 생각들이 꼬리를 물고 늘어질 때가 있다. 이렇게 부정적인 생각이 꼬리를 물고 늘어질 때는 어떻게 해야 할까. 그냥 하는 수밖에 없음. 정 하기 싫으면, 그냥 습관 트래커에 체크하기 위해 한다고 생각해. 그냥 하는 거야. 생각을 뭐 하려 해. 그냥 하는 거야.. 이렇게 내가 지킨 작은 약속들이, 나중에는 나를 지켜줄 것이라고 믿는다. 주로 내 경우에.. 이런 자조적인 생각이 드는 경우는 남들과의 비교를 통해 열등감을 ..

-Todd May argues that if somehow you could become immortal, your life would not have as much meaning.-To live is to lose. And it is the certainty of loss that makes life meaningful.-Like an explorer on a path, the closer and more intimate we get with the changing landscape, the more beautiful, interesting, and deeply fulfilling the journey becomes, not in spite of the fact that we know it will c..